I was driving home today and the I had the weirdest thought.
I wanted to start a post about parenting but didn’t want to make it seem like I was an expert because no one really is.
Well, we all our to our own children but no one can tell us how to be the perfect universal parent.
With that said, my posts on this matter is all relative. It is my way of parenting as a single part time mother and the best way for me and my son.
I welcome all judgements but that won’t change the way I do things.
So back to my weird thought.
I thought about the times that I’ve introduced my son to my exers, and even though many people will disagree with me, I don’t regret introducing him to them.
I have a tendency to get turned off by the way a man is around my son.
I may excuse a lot of mannerisms and behaviors towards me but when it comes down to Tyler, I can’t tolerate it.
So even though my past relationships didn’t work out due to whatever reasons, I believe that it partially had to do with my heart slowly distancing itself from them because I was not satisfied by the way were with my son.
Every time we would all hang out, I would get irritated or disappointed by the lack of their qualifications.
I think of it as a way to weed out the ones I know I can’t trust or stand to be with while Tyler is in my life.
I know many single parent women and men feel that it is a curse to introduce them to a significant other, but I feel the opposite.
It’s like test driving a car before purchasing.
Now of course if you’re dating someone then there’s no need, but a boyfriend or girlfriend, then it must be done.
I know that as long as I keep an open communication with Tyler we’re going to have our strong relationship last forever.
And that is what’s most important.
But on the other hand, I may try the opposite in the future and see how that works out seeing that most were a disappointment. ;)
I don’t think there is ever a perfect time to introduce a child to a new relationship but I know that the only person who can decide on a close to perfect time would be the parent and only the parent.