I originally wanted the wedding in Kansas. Actually, I really didn’t want to have a wedding, for one main reason.
My parent’s have split up and neither of them are able to provide me the wedding they were able to 10 years ago so I didn’t want to burden Bear or his family to fork up the funds.
But since it was Bear’s first wedding, if we were going to have one… I wanted it in Kansas. Why?
1. Easy way out of not inviting everyone
2. Keep costs low
3. All my friends want to see Kansas
4. Cheaper prices on… EVERYTHING
5. I’ve already had one in LA :P
Somehow, we started looking into having a wedding in Los Angeles. Bear suggested that we have one here since everyone in Kansas would rather visit LA than everyone in LA visiting Kansas.
As we started to do more research, I was turned off by the limited amount of options with the lack of funds.
I don’t want a wedding if I can’t have it the way I want and I don’t want to half ass a production (ceremony/reception) just to have a bunch of people come to a cheesy party called a wedding.
I’m the type of person who wants to either go all the way or don’t do it at all.
So a dinky church wedding and a reception with Korean buffet and carnation table arrangements were not my idea of a celebration.
I convinced Bear to have it in Kansas.
A determined bride is not to be underestimated.
This trip out to Kansas was solely for wedding arrangements.
We had been given a few locations to check out from the wedding planner that his sister had used.
She will probably be our planner as well and she was able to guide us in the direction according to our guest count.
One stood out in particular and I had already started stalking them on their instagram.
Hobbs Building was our first stop on Friday. Well, our only stop on Friday. The rest of the day was planned for us to hang by the pool.
The second location was the Longview Mansion… we visited the property on Sunday. I was able envision our wedding here but it wasn’t the direction that we wanted to go. This location was very grand and beautiful, which would have been perfect if we had a million dollars and 500 guests.
As much as I wanted the princess wedding with Bear, I had already had one and it wasn’t the greatest choice.
Sometimes it’s better to have something more intimate, private and relaxed than to have a grandiose ceremony with stress ruining the big day.
I didn’t even drink at my first wedding because I wanted everything to be perfect.
I didn’t even let my ex husband drink and when I found out he did, I got mad and was upset most of the ceremony and reception.
It started off bad. :P
But I know with Bear… we’re going to have boatloads of fun. So much fun, I’m not going to remember!