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Lucky meeeee, I get to attend!

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Koreans & their #Mercedes & #BMWs

I find it obvious and hilarious to see comments from other Koreans on my Korean friend’s #facebook post.

“Getting rid of my car in May. Need to lease or buy a car. Does anyone want me to buy or take over their lease? Wanting to see what my options are?”

Everyone and their unborn children came screaming BMW & Mercedes.

I of course rooted for my Toyota Prius.

It makes me laugh that I could come to this point in my life where I’m ok driving a great car that doesn’t have a luxury name attached to it but I still see other Koreans who would die without it.

It took a lot (time and others) to get to where I am today. To be happy with not having what everyone else has.

I grew up with Mercedes, BMWs, Range Rovers (not the sport, please) and I had to downgrade.

1. If you own a house and can afford the maintenance and gas for the luxury vehicle, good for you!

2. If you live in an apartment and NEED to drive you C-class or BMW 2/3/4 series, you need to re-evaluate your life.

3. If you don’t care about cars, but feel the need to drive a Mercedes or BMW because, well all your friends drive one, well you need a better self esteem.

When will Koreans learn that their showy behavior will only attract leeches and create a self hating jealous being that will never be happy with what they have because they associate everything with name brands and what people think.

If I can move forward, so can you.

If I can’t have the M6 or the S550, I’m good on the Mercedes & BMW.

You’re welcome!


It seems like it was just yesterday when my life was perfect.

No bills, no responsibilities and my loving parents both under one roof.

Maybe perfect isn’t the right word because what was brewing between my parents had been going on for years without my knowledge.

This #throwbackthursday is dedicated to my life before everything went upside down.


The time has come and the lease has ended on our rental condo. Two years ago, my mother and I moved out of my childhood mansion. Seven years prior to that, both my parents and I filed for divorce.

I can’t help but blame myself for what has happened; even though I know it really isn’t my fault, it’s only natural to feel like I had a part to do with the downward spiral of what was my perfect life. Perfect within my family, not my marriage.

We’ve been organizing boxes and boxes, getting ready for our move in a week and my mom came across this portrait.

Aside from this, we have albums on top of albums filled with fond memories by our pool, family vacations and celebrations throughout the years.

If I could do it all over again, I would have never begged my parents to stay in Downey the start of my high school year when they wanted to move to Beverly Hills. I would have never gotten engaged at 19 years of age and be married two weeks after my 21st birthday. I would have never allowed myself to be so boy crazy and ruin what could have been a different life for me.

But everything happens for a reason. If I hadn’t gone through everything, I wouldn’t have met my soul mate, the love of my life, the person I was meant to be with forever and eternity.

Some Most times shit happens in life. It’s never peachy and clear. All the shit happens because it makes us who we are and stronger than we ever imagine ourselves to be.

Life is beautiful in that sense. It’s like the clear skies after a rainstorm that makes it all worth while.

If anyone is in a circumstance where it feels like nothing will get better, just look at what I’ve been through and understand that life will get better.

CHEERS to #tbt, it’s been great reminiscing but I have a great life to live today and forever.



I was anticipating for the show. The idea of showcasing the minority in both sex and ethnicity is a brilliant idea. Especially 3 out of the 4 women being #Korean.

I had no idea who they were because I’m not really into #EDM or #KPOP or #FASHION, but my hubby is so that is how I learned about the show.

My producer from #KTOWN mentioned the premiere party in Hollywood but I had class, but in all honestly, I wasn’t too interested in attending. I would have stopped by for the after party but I guess they only had Greystone Manor rented til 11pm. Regular Wednesday night party for SBE would have to still go on…

I fully supported the show until I saw the trailer. If you know me, you know exactly what I’m talking about. I can’t support anything that involves a lifesucking leech.

I still support #AlphaGirlsTV on their road to recognition as artists, creators, producers and strong successful women in the industry and wish them the best of luck and respect.

Episode one came out today and I was excited to watch. Each profile has an extraordinary talent and are acknowledged in their industry to be ahead of the game. It was refreshing to watch #Asian women conquering.

My favorite line from #Tokimonsta, “The problem with a lot other female DJs in electronic music is they’re not valued for how talented they are, lot of them are talented for how little they dress in”. Sounds about right. It’s refreshing to hear an accomplished artist recognizing what’s really wrong with the world and how people view ‘talent’.

None of these flourishing masters are the typical attention seeking female individuals that feel the need to wear less clothes or be provocative to be acknowledged. They work hard or even harder than most men and women and are able to stand behind their work and not say a word.

This series is a look into #alpha #females. ASIAN ALPHA FEMALES


Here’s episode one. My only problem with this episode is that it lagged a bit. I stopped watching it around the 15 minute mark. The technical aspect of the episode annoyed me. The topic and subject wasn’t the issue, it was the transitions. Maybe because it was the first episode and they wanted to showcase each individual profile, whatever the case it was dead space. Either speed it up or get rid of it.

Hopefully for the second episode, the introduction transitions aren’t necessary.


Sneak peek for episode 2, I didn’t really bother.



@CollegeHumor “Why Engagement Rings Are A Scam”

I admit, I really wanted a diamond ring.

Luckily I had two things going for me.

1. I’ve already had a 2.2 GIA certified brilliant diamond with ideal cut, clarity and color.

2. Sapphires come in purple.

Getting married for the second time isn’t so bad afterall! I don’t have to conform to the traditional values and cultures to satisfy everyone else while I’m unhappy.

Yes, I was unhappy at first that the diamond I would want would cost more than the piece of shit car I drive. (Sorry VIPRIUS).

But at the end of the day, I love my peice of shit car and I love my beautiful purple sapphire ring. I honestly think I love it more than I would have loved my generic diamond ring.

With that said, here is the video that urged me to write this post.


It’s true #debeers set out to create a historical catchphrase “Diamonds are forever”. Watch this documentary below on De Beers.

I did on Netflix! It was very interesting and educational!


Guess what? Diamonds are forever but so are other gemstones. I did my research before confirming my choice. I also viewed a lot of stones. I wanted to make sure I fell in love with the visual aesthetics of the stone in person and not just from online photos.


If you’ve read my blog for a while, you’ll know I don’t bullshit.

When I picked out the stone I wanted, I was already thinking of the upgrade. I told Bear I wanted a diamond upgrade in the future. Yes, I can be a spoiled unappreciative bitch most some of the time but I come to my senses.

I will say this, I didn’t love my engagement ring at first. It took days after days for me to fall in love. I want to believe that it was simply the fact that it wasn’t a diamond. I felt the need to justify.

An engagement ring ISN’T necessary. A diamond isn’t the symbol of true love. Anything can represent the sentiment of a proposal. Just remember, it needs to be something YOU want and YOU love. Whether it’s a diamond, sapphire, band or rainbow loom. :P

I may not have an overpriced diamond on my ring finger but I bet you I have something most of these diamond wearing women don’t have… a MAN who loves me more than anything in the world. And for that reason, I love my ring. Oh and it’s purple. ;)

It doesn’t matter what I wear on my finger, I only care that the person who gave it to me wants to make me happy for the rest of my life no matter what.

My ring is more beautiful than any other diamond out there because it represents me and the love that Bear and I have.

My sapphire is shiny, BIG, purple, GIA certified, cheaper than a diamond and most of all EXACTLY what I want.

Don’t feel the pressure of society to buy something that represents a tradition that was made up from a company to make money.

Be yourself and stand out from the rest. Don’t conform.

I don’t need an upgrade to a diamond, all I need is Bear by my side forever. My future husband is forever, a diamond is just a rock.

#FieldTrip @ZodiakLA #workshop

THANK YOU David Wollock for the introduction/presentation of the company!

My professor invited me to a class trip (even though I’m not in his class) because I asked him to include me after last semester was over.

My professor, Steven Hirohama is one of the best professors I’ve ever had. His networks are pretty rad too, so I definitely didn’t want to miss out on any of his outings.

He has friends from everywhere and we get to experience and learn about the business.

Unfortunately, I’m not taking a film class this semester.

Yesterday was a rare opportunity. We got to visit Zodiak in Santa Monica and hear about the company.

Zodiak is a production company, kind of like Electus, who I worked with for #KTOWN season 1 & 2.

Hearing David and his team talk clarified what I wanted to do for my career after I graduate college.

Although I already knew everything they were saying because I went through it as a talent not a producer, it was still educational.

They talked about sizzle reels, pitching, ideas, scripts and so on. We even did an exercise at the end where each group came up with an idea for a reality show for the intended network. My group chose E! and he loved my idea.

Not to be narcissistic, but I gave him my life story. He had no idea of course. I know there’s a reality show out there for me one day, or I’ll just have to finish my book sooner to get attention.

I wish I could’ve stayed longer but I had a prior dinner reservation so had to jet before being able to ‘pitch’ our show.

The company even bought us dinner, granted it was pizza and I didn’t have any, it was a very kind gesture.

It looked amazing, my mouth was watering as I watched everyone else eat.






@DANakaDAN Adoptee Documentary Series Screening

All my life, I never wanted to believe or live by the saying, “everything happens for a reason”.

It seemed forced and expected. “People say that because they have no other way to make themselves feel better about the circumstances they are in.”

Ignorant me, I only saw the negative aspect of the saying. More recently (starting a couple years ago), I finally believed in the saying. Life was turning and I couldn’t resist using the phrase. Then, I fully understood.

Over the weekend, I had the honor of being invited to experience something I probably would have never thought about.

Adoption. Adoptee. A documentary about a Korean baby who was adopted by an American family.

It all started as a KickStarter project.

My producer from KTOWN, produced this documentary.

I really wanted to bring my son Tyler to share this experience, but the event as a whole was mainly for adults, so I opted not to.

Open bar isn’t a place for children. :P

I’m not going to say too much about this docu-series because my point in sharing this is to have you watch it for yourself.

Before I got there, I knew I was going to cry. During the screening, I cried 80% of the time. Thank god Bear had a pocket square, I used it to blow my nose and wipe my tears.

The emotions that ran through my body and mind were indescribable. As a mom, I felt pain and guilt. As a child, I felt nervous and confused. As a viewer, I felt happy and proud. It was definitely an eye opening process.

I never thought about adopting a child, but after watching AKA DAN, I wanted to adopt.

The biggest fear I have about my son is the fact that I NEVER want to make him feel like he’s not loved. Especially when I have future children with my new husband. But to watch a grown man, who was once a child, go through life, being a part of something unknown yet so familiar was shocking. Only because I didn’t understand.

It made me think about the things that I’ve never thought to imagine. How it would be to be an adopted child. To grow up knowing what you have is real but in reality, things don’t really add up.

I felt so unappreciative of my life, unaware of everything else that is going on in the world. How minute I felt compared to everything else. The world is normal and there’s everything else that makes it special. People like Dan.

Dan has provided a look into his life, an adoptee’s life. Something most of us will never know and feel.

This documentary was provided for us to be bigger in our thoughts and actions.

This docu-series was able to get here because of Dan, because everything was meant to happen.

And going back to the phrase, “everything happens for a reason,” it truly does. You’ll only believe it more after you watch it.

The docu-series is set to air on ISA YouTube in March and I hope to have piqued your interest.

All I wish is for this series to have a worldwide view to help people understand the full cycle of procreation and life.

Be open minded, be free.

THANK YOU DAN aka DAN for connecting us to your magical story and awakening my spirit/soul.

THANK YOU to Dan’s crew for making his personal story into a reality.

The screening took place at the Japanese American Natural Museum on Feb. 1st, 2014.

Below are some photos I took at the event. It was a great turnout and saw a lot of familiar faces…







Here are all of Dan AKA Dan’s social feeds, if you’re interested in knowing what’s to come…





@Vorsteiner Private Press Event!

My obsession with cars have seeped out to the general public.

I love speed, the smell of engines and tight spaces. I LOVE SPORTS CARS!

THANKS TO VORSTEINER I was able to see the BIG reveal of the #Mclaren #MP4VX!

My got is that car fuckin’ gorgeous.

The rear reminds me of the Porsche Carrera GT but in a more TMNT way. If you know what I mean.

VORSTEINER is the leading automotive modification designer and ergonomic supplier for ALL luxury vehicles.

If you’re not VORST OUT, you’re missing out!








Lucky me I get to see everything first hand!

Open bar, sexy cars and the love of my life in my arms.

2nd Week w/ @MaureenABrowne

I’m sad that I’m half way through my month with my hosting coach.

I was a little less nervous this time around in class and I think it was because I went up earlier as oppose to the end.

Reminded me of my public speaking class, I always went first so I can get it over with.

I have an audition today so she stayed with me after the class which was so sweet of her. The critiques she gives are so helpful and easily comprehendible. I look forward to class next week for we will be doing teleprompter work!

Two more weeks and I’m done. I’ll probably sign up for the advanced and the hosting reel class as well.


Mastering my craft with @MaureenABrowne

Tonight was my first class at Initiative Talent Group with Maureen Brown and her skills in casting and directing hosts.

I came across her site from a google search and was hesitant on signing up but I mustered up the confidence and did it.

I was nervous and not looking forward to it all day. I have this weird fear with classes that involve working with entertainment people. Which usually subsides after the first day but still. I guess it is because I’m worried about having to deal with egos and talents and I feel incompetent and get super shy.

I got to class early so I sat in my car for an hour and a half. When I finally got there, I felt a little bit better.

Until I had to do my introduction. I don’t know why I get so nervous. I’m talking about myself! I should be the most comfortable then!

I screwed up my introduction, I didn’t even get to share all the work I’ve done on camera and how I got to where I am today.

Sitting in class and listening to everyone else, made me feel at ease.

We read our first copy in class, standing in front of everyone.

I was even more nervous.

I left the class disappointed in myself but I know that this was the right choice.

I am going to learn and break out of my comfort zone. And my nervousness.

Maureen is beautiful, eloquent and a professional.

I’m so happy that I signed up and I was able to find her on google.

I look forward to an amazing month of absorbing all knowledge she has to offer!




Dim Sum and then some…

I decided to take my future into my own hands.

It was a few weeks ago when I started thinking about where my life was going and what I could jump start it.

I’m so used to things just happening for me and I think in the back of my mind, that’s what was expecting to happen. I know with my career, I couldn’t wait anymore.

I needed to do something so I came up with the idea of using my resources and interviewing prominent people in the industry to help with honing my skills and promote them, Chynna and myself. It would be a win win situation.

I reached out and several people agreed to participate.

My first interviewee was Tuesday and my second was last night.

On Tuesday, I was so nervous I forgot to take photos and enjoy the moment. I don’t know why I was so nervous, I kept telling myself that it was MY project and I had nothing to be nervous about. I only here to impress myself! No one will judge my work because I am the creator.

By the 2nd interview, I was not nervous. It was fun and it made me realize that this was something I could do forever.

Because I don’t have a photo of my first guest, I’ll keep her a secret until the video is released.

My second guest was my favorite Chef in the world, Chef Wes, a magician in the kitchen. He will make children eat their veggies and adults eat things they’ve never imagined enjoying.

Thank you so much for being a part of this segment, Wes!

I had so much fun with you and the camera!

Wait and see, please subscribe to my YouTube



Want vs Need

In life I don’t want to admit that there are things that I need as oppose to wanting.

I have to come back into reality and really help train my brain to differentiate my wants versus my needs.

Can you guess what my wants/needs are in the pictures below? :P

For example:

Which home do I need/want?

Luxury Home


Which ring do I need/want?

ring2 ring1


Which car do I need/want?






What kind of children do I need/want?



Sometimes the thing we want and need are agreeable, but most of the time, it’s our greed and superficiality that clouds our judgments.

As of now, I just want to stay happy and whatever keeps me happy is what I’m going to strive for everyday.

It’s ok to want things and create a drive for yourself to obtain your desires, just don’t let it get in the way of living a fulfilling life with things you can’t take with you to Heaven.

Half A Year Later…

And I’m still feeling blessed to have such an amazing man in my life.

I’ve never experienced something so genuine in my life, his presence makes me so fulfilled and I feel so lucky.

I have never been in a relationship like this before. And I’m grateful that I was able to find my partner.

I’ve been asked what love was and I always tried to answer with sentences that people couldn’t understand. Little did I know that I didn’t understand it then as well.

Love can’t be put into words, the way I feel about Bear is beyond anything I can verbalize.

It seems like I’m living in a fairytale because everything about us is perfect.

He supports me in ways I’ve never been supported and he believes in me the way I never thought a person could ever.

If I didn’t have an open heart, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I’ve never been more sure of myself til now.

Whatever happened doesn’t matter, the only thing that matters to me is us and the future.

The last six (+ one month of dating) months have been the best time of my life.

Happy 6 months Bear, I love you immensely!


May I?

I don’t know what rating I get from one being the lowest and 10 being the most aggressive.

I want to just make a mess and not have to clean it up. I wouldn’t break things but knock things over and throw paper in the air and fall where they may fall.

I assume it would be refreshing? Knowing there’s a mess and I don’t have to worry about it.

Either that’s a sign I do that in my real life or that “that’s my letting go” and I can only wish ask to do that.

Either way that would feel amazing!!!


Do What You Love, Love What You Do

It wasn’t until summer 2012, I decided my major would be journalism and broadcasting.

I was always the one unmotivated as a child. My parents never forced me to do anything (except take piano lessons like every other Asian kid). I never had the urge to find my passion. I don’t really have anyone to blame because it wasn’t anyone’s fault, it was just my personality. Which in reality stems from my upbringing. But that’s too much to get into.

My parents wanted me to be well rounded so I did everything imaginable.

  1. Piano
  2. Flute
  3. Clarinet
  4. Violin
  5. Figure Skating
  6. Gymnastics
  7. Ballet
  8. Jazz
  9. Korean Cultural Dancing
  10. Tap
  11. Pageants
  12. Cheerleading
  13. Kumon
  14. Choir

Not in any particular order, but basically everything that required money to do. I believe that the extracurricular activities listed above are the reasons why I had a hard time deciding what I wanted to do as an adult. Not that any of those would give me a career choice but it made me wishy washy in my decisions as a child that carried over as an adult.

My parents wanted me to try everything my little heart desired. Some of these things were forced and lasted longer than I wanted and the ones I chose lasted the shortest.

I struggled in my academics throughout high school because I was too busy hanging out with cooler older friends who introduced me to Korean clubbing (dancing, drinking and booking).

I got my car when I was 16 and then I discovered ditching. I was a ghost my junior and senior in high school.

But it was in high school I discovered blogging. I had a friend in VA whom I visited every summer since 1995 and it wasn’t until 1997-1998 I decided to create a space for my friends on the east coast to see what I was doing.

I was ahead of the game. Before Xanga, Facebook, MySpace, blogger and any other social sites.

I bought my domain and used MS Frontpage as my portal to showcase my life.

I had a brief moment of non existence when my husband to be asked me to shut everything down in 2003. I abided like the nice little Korean girl I was.

I didn’t start my own blog again til 2008, but was dabbling in Xanga and social sites.

MySpace was huge then and I started off with blogger with my own domain name again. I was smart this time. I used a platform so I wouldn’t have to pay for my own hosting.

So back to my first sentence, it wasn’t until summer of 2012 when I decided what to major in.

I don’t know why it took me so long to realize that I had already started a mini career by having my blog.

Someone once told me that if you’ve been doing something for 10 years, you’ve created a job and is a professional at that.

I wouldn’t go as far as calling myself a professional but I found my passion.

Writing: telling stories and sharing information. I’ve always been a giver and I’ve always had a style of delivery.

I realized that in life, things are right under your nose. You don’t have to search far and beyond for something. Look closely and it’ll come to you or it may already be there.

There’s a saying that if you love what you do then you never have to work a day in your life, and that is my goal.

I see a bright future in the direction I’m going. I’ve started to take journalism broadcasting classes and it has given me more confidence in my choice.

I’m now 30 and realizing this and I’m so grateful to have the opportunity to go back to school and finish what I have started. It’s never too late, don’t forget that!

I want to write, share stories, whether it’s a book, a television series or even a film or play, I will be heard.

I think the best stories come from true life experiences and boy do I have some!

Thank you to all, for those who have followed me since 1998 or recently, I will strive to entertain you in a manner I know best, brutally honest and the Violet way.

@WeddingPalaceGo Screening @USC

I was Taft-Hartley’d on this film, thanks to Christine Yoo who asked me to come back after being background for a day for a one line “Gossip Girl” role.

The screening was a great turnout and I was asked to come up on stage after as well.

Which I didn’t feel like I deserved to be up there with the rest of the main casts.

But definitely honored to be a part of.


Also the director, when she called me up, she gave KTown Reality show a shout out. Mentioned it after calling my name up! :)

Thank you for the support!