#MustHave @BedBathBeyond!

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We got two $25 gift cards from my cousin and her family and a $10 gift card from Bear’s optometry rebate so we decided to get new towels (finally) and a toaster (oven).

Toaster oven was way overpriced #BedBathandBeyond so we just got two bath towels.

Super soft, super white and a great deal!

We’ll be getting the toaster oven on #Amazon.

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#QualityTime

Life as an adult gets more difficult since there aren’t enough days in a month to see everyone I love.

I make it a point to always hang out with the important people in my life.

I give the effort that is put in towards me.

With that said, my cousin and her family are a part of my family that I love to see and hang out with.

They’ve invited us to their home for dinner and fun numerous times and we wanted to return the favor by having them over after Bear’s move.

We ordered KC BBQ (Bear’s favorite restaurant). Go to PigletVentures for all the food photos!

Kids played and adults talked, laughed and drank a whittle. :P

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We had so much fun and too much food! I couldn’t stop eating and I had ramen after they left!

I woke up… Too many pounds on the scale.

I need to do Jim but I just want to eat all day.

@FormulaDrift Schedule

ROUND 1 was last weekend in Long Beach and it was a phenomenal turnout! For the #FormulaD event and for #HankookUSA!

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Make sure you follow along and visit if you live close enough to the future events!

Round 2 | ROAD TO THE CHAMPIONSHIP | Road Atlanta – Braselton, GA | May 9 – 10
Road Atlanta opened in 1970 and was home of the inaugural Formula DRIFT event back in 2004. The 2.54-mile, 12-turn track is owned by Panoz Motorsports and hosts many …

Round 3 | HOMESTEAD-MIAMI | Homestead-Miami Speedway – Homestead, FL | May 30 – 31

Round 4 | THE GAUNTLET | Wall Speedway – Wall, NJ | June 20 – 21
Wall Speedway has been around since 1950. The track has currently been renovated and will provide drift fans with an exciting show on the inner oval.

Round 5 | THROWDOWN | Evergreen Speedway – Monroe, WA | July 18 – 19
Evergreen Speedway is the oldest track on the Formula DRIFT schedule and originally has its roots in horse racing. Formula DRIFT first entered this track in 2006. The banking of the track has …

Round 6 | SHOWDOWN | Texas Motor Speedway – Fort Worth, TX | September 12 – 13

Round 7 | FINAL FIGHT | Irwindale Speedway – Irwindale, CA | October 10 – 11
Irwindale Speedway (aka “The House of DRIFT”) is home of the first sanctioned drifting event back in 2003. Formula DRIFT has made a home at this track as it has been the traditional final stop to …

Why Asian Women Should Date White Men

Or black, Brown, purple, yellow and green!

Who the fuck was that nincompoop that decided it would be funny to write that article.

Apparently he was white and he was joking. I don’t know what kind of category of humor that falls into but it caused a lot of commotion and it was not funny.

Sheesh, it even riled me up!

I saw the post on Facebook and from just the title, I had to read it.

After the first two paragraphs, I skimmed the rest and reposted with my opinion.

#ThoughtCatalog has some great published stuff but this was alarming. Made me second guess their content.

I believe we’re all a little racist, not because we have hatred but because it’s human nature and it can be funny.

Learning to deal with racism is to laugh it off, don’t take it too seriously.

It’s not right nor is it wrong. It is what it is. And yes, little by little we can rid racism but not by writing articles like the one that was published.

Human nature… It’s a funny thing.

It’s like being born and knowing you’re going to grow up and fuck another human being.

There are those who like to fuck goats and dogs and horses and so on, is it wrong or right? It’s neither, people do as they please no matter the judgement.

Racism exists because we’re all different and it’s ok.

It’s ok if you’re into animal sex, you’ll still be judged like the racist in the room. At the end of the day, it’s your choice to be seen in that light or not. Most like to be secretive.

There are times when I can be racist, but not because I hate that race or wish them to die. I’m racist because I’m comfortable with who I am and I know I can joke about it amongst my friends and not be taken seriously.

I can take offensive jokes too. Just last week, a white guy said I had chinky eyes. That is one thing I do not have, but he was stereotyping and trying to be funny. (You had to be there for the full convo). I wasn’t offended. I took it at face value and didn’t think anything of it.

It’s acceptable if you’re accepting of the fact that it’s not coming from a bad place. Don’t get me wrong, there are people who are actually racist but they’re too busy scheming about killing off the other race hiding in their basement in buttfuck Egypt.

So back to the article. I was offended because I’m not the typical Asian girl he described that only date white men nor is my fiancé the white guy who has yellow fever.

He was my first white boyfriend and I happened to fall in love with who he was and not the color of his skin.

I was never into white men ‘y preference was Asian Korean. I was narrow minded and ignorant. Never thought I could have anything in common with a white man nor a black or brown.

When I first met Bear I thought he had yellow fever and boy was I glad he wasn’t one of those.

After our first date I knew that I had been in the wrong. It’s not about the color, height, financial stability or package size that makes a person want to spend the rest of their lives with someone.

It’s who they are, how they were brought up, similar interests, common goals and communication.

I never thought I’d marry a white guy. Especially after only dating Korean man. I even married one and that didn’t work out.

I learn everyday because I’m with Bear. I have opened my mind about the possibilities of life outside of what I know and what I grew up with.

I love my decision and I wouldn’t have it any way.

For those who think it’s a stepping stool to get the #whiteprivileges by marrying a white man, you are delusional.

Feel free to date and marry whomever you like. Nobody cares and if they do you shouldn’t care.

Find your soulmate, find the person who understands you, do yourself a favor and love yourself first before really knowing what you can love.

Because once you know you, you’re not going to want what you think you wanted.

Racism only exists in those that want to make it a big deal.

To the rest, it’s just a bunch of words coming from a buffoon.

The only thing you should take seriously is your own life and who you decide will be in it.

If we’re going to get a step closer to world peace, all of you retards talking about racists and racism should shut the fuck up…and marry a person with a different ethnicity.

Once we’re all muts, we’ll all be happy cause we will all be one kind.

Happy Living!

Read here THOUGHT CATALOG

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@ConnectDTLA @ChynnaDTLA

What a great turnout! A huge congratulations to my hubby who gathered an awesome crowd!

Amazing artists and great music, food and drinks.

I was working so I didn’t drink but I sure did enjoy the night behind the camera.

Hubby asked me to do interviews but if I needed to do the videography, I couldn’t be in front of camera…

So I ended up being behind the camera and having the artists and sponsors do shoutouts.

I had Tyler waiting for me at home so I left before the party started. Just made sure my work was done.

Promo video coming soon!

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Why I Haven’t Moved In

I’ve done everything the other way and it didn’t work out. Not that doing the opposite may have made it work, but it doesn’t hurt to go against the grain.

I believe I did something extraordinary. I went the complete opposite of what I ever wanted, tried and am used to.

Look at me now, I’m engaged to be married to the love of my life because I’ve stepped out of my comfort.

I know moving in with Bear won’t change anything, but I look forward to the day after the wedding.

I have a bright future ahead of me and I want it to be perfect.

I truly believed that all couples should live together before getting married, but now I think couples should not.

If you’re truly in love and you both have respect for each other (which most couples these days lack) then moving in the day after the wedding will make it that much more special.

Living together already makes us feel like we’re married.

“If you can get the milk for free, why pay for the cow?”

Marriage symbolizes union. The union of two people coming together to live, love and communicate.

I think of myself to be traditional and for once I’m doing what I feel is right.

There are times when you know something isn’t going to work but you just do it anyway. And there are times you know something is going to work but you just wait because it’ll eventually happen. No need to rush.

I look forward to our wedding day.

Whenever that’ll be… we haven’t even set a date!

 

#howtobealady

Don’t be the cow giving out free milk. :P

What to expect when marrying a white guy…

1. Thanksgiving is awesome

2. No outlandish expectations from parents to help with the housework when visiting

3. No criticizing of any sort

4. Always encouraging

5. Gives a lot of words of affirmation

6. NO judgement

7. Christmas is more awesome

8. Communicating is easy

9. Exposed to different love languages

10. Children will be beautiful!

 

Having to have spent time with Bear’s family over the holidays really made me think about the kind of childhood I had.

It wasn’t bad at all, it was just different.

Growing up in a Korean family, speaking ONLY Korean in the home was great. I didn’t know anything else.

Growing up and hanging out in other Korean homes made it seem normal.

If you go over someone’s house, you offer to help and most likely they’ll be expecting you to. If you don’t help, the parents will talk shit to their child about how disrespectful you were. A. You won’t be dating them anymore B. You won’t be back at the house.

I also noticed that my natural reaction to get up and sit properly or stand if I’ve been lying down or slouching on a surface was unnecessary.

They offered me a glass of wine the first night I met them.

Over the holidays last year, I slept in til 10am, sometimes even 11:30am and nobody cared. Well, except for Bear because he wanted to hang out with me.

I caught myself doing things in the room I was staying in to make sure that it was clean and perfect just the way they had it for me when I left, but honestly, I don’t think they would have minded. I made sure to pick up any piece of hair left in the bathroom floor.

Bear’s mother made EVERYTHING from scratch. Dinner entrees, sides, desserts, pastries, breakfast, bread, EVERYTHING!

One thing I remember vividly, and the reason for this post is to point out the difference in parenting and home life.

I was helping with dinner one night and I offered to help. She asked me to cut up the vegetables. Halfway through, I asked, “is this ok?” She replied, “you’re doing a great job, thank you”.

It felt good to hear that. Honestly, if Tyler was helping me chop of vegetables I would probably tell him he’s doing it wrong and try to have him do it the way I want. I can’t remember if that’s how I grew up, but it does sound familiar in a sense that my parents were very critical of the way I did things. I catch myself being critical of Tyler all the time. After my time with Bear’s family I’ve tried to take in the good and learn from his parents on how to be a better parent. To be encouraging and positive, not always trying to correct my child.

It’s a work in progress.

This is all new to me, and if I had never met Blair, I’d be passing on my Korean parenting traditions and I don’t know how I feel about that.

It’s like they say… you don’t know anything if you haven’t experienced it.

Now that I’ve experienced a different cultural home life, I can use it to my advantage and make sure that I pass on the good traits to my child and future children.

I can’t imagine what my life would be like without Bear and his family.

I’m so happy and feel blessed to have met him and to be able to surround myself with his family.

I love my Korean family, of course, they’re just different. :)

Reality

Not living out of your means.

For the first time in my life I’m with a guy man who is doing such that.

It was maxing out credit cards.

Driving a car but asking me to get it under my name.

Using my credit card because it was easy ‘at the time’ and he’d give me cash later (which he never did).

Buying things on credit.

Claiming things were his when in reality it was borrowed.

Going to ‘meetings’ with potential ‘clients’.

The list goes on.

It’s no one’s fault but mine, really.

I chose to date them because I didn’t see the obvious signs.

It’s common for people to get clouded by the glitz & glam that a person may portray but it’s important to understand that what they give off is genuine and honest.

Most cases, you won’t find these characteristics in individuals who need to flaunt and brag.

Reality is great. Reality is substance, easy to see, understand and feel secure.

I feel like a new person, in no way am I feeling like I have to carry someone or worry that they may have ulterior motives.

My Bear has been the only person in my life to make me feel like I’m not being used.

There was a period in my life (when first dating Bear) where I wasn’t blogging often. Why? Well, I was happy.

I like to blog about things that annoy me, complain about circumstances, bash on stereotypes… you know, if you’ve been a reader.

When life is grand, there’s nothing to talk about.

But one day, a friend told me, “why don’t you write about the good stuff?’

My immediate response was, “no one wants to read the happy shit.”

I realized, people want to read the happy shit.

Nobody really believes that I’m happy and have found my Seoul mate.

Nobody wants me to be happy, nobody wants anyone to be happy if you’re not a real friend.

I never felt the need to prove to anyone about what I choose to do in my life, so this is different.

I truly believe that there is a better chance at winning the lottery than finding your true love.

I got lucky to have met Bear. My future posts about relationships will be the reality/truth about my romantic life.

Reality is better than a facade. Get it together people.

Do you even know the true you?

@Artdotcom for the #Home

Been obsessed over the site www.art.com trying to figure out what type of artwork I want to hang up in my office.

One finally came… my obsession over cute animals (penguins, pandas & bunnies) have taken over my life.

I hope that by looking at this, it will brighten up my day and help me smile a little more.

To get best deals, make sure you click through Ebates or Mr. Rebates.

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Weekend Fun

Not all weekend was fun, moving sucked and I was exhausted.

It literally took all day and night.

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Sunday was C’s (Tyler’s friend’s) birthday party!

Junk food, BBQ and piñata! Great fun for the kids!

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