What to expect when marrying a white guy…

1. Thanksgiving is awesome

2. No outlandish expectations from parents to help with the housework when visiting

3. No criticizing of any sort

4. Always encouraging

5. Gives a lot of words of affirmation

6. NO judgement

7. Christmas is more awesome

8. Communicating is easy

9. Exposed to different love languages

10. Children will be beautiful!


Having to have spent time with Bear’s family over the holidays really made me think about the kind of childhood I had.

It wasn’t bad at all, it was just different.

Growing up in a Korean family, speaking ONLY Korean in the home was great. I didn’t know anything else.

Growing up and hanging out in other Korean homes made it seem normal.

If you go over someone’s house, you offer to help and most likely they’ll be expecting you to. If you don’t help, the parents will talk shit to their child about how disrespectful you were. A. You won’t be dating them anymore B. You won’t be back at the house.

I also noticed that my natural reaction to get up and sit properly or stand if I’ve been lying down or slouching on a surface was unnecessary.

They offered me a glass of wine the first night I met them.

Over the holidays last year, I slept in til 10am, sometimes even 11:30am and nobody cared. Well, except for Bear because he wanted to hang out with me.

I caught myself doing things in the room I was staying in to make sure that it was clean and perfect just the way they had it for me when I left, but honestly, I don’t think they would have minded. I made sure to pick up any piece of hair left in the bathroom floor.

Bear’s mother made EVERYTHING from scratch. Dinner entrees, sides, desserts, pastries, breakfast, bread, EVERYTHING!

One thing I remember vividly, and the reason for this post is to point out the difference in parenting and home life.

I was helping with dinner one night and I offered to help. She asked me to cut up the vegetables. Halfway through, I asked, “is this ok?” She replied, “you’re doing a great job, thank you”.

It felt good to hear that. Honestly, if Tyler was helping me chop of vegetables I would probably tell him he’s doing it wrong and try to have him do it the way I want. I can’t remember if that’s how I grew up, but it does sound familiar in a sense that my parents were very critical of the way I did things. I catch myself being critical of Tyler all the time. After my time with Bear’s family I’ve tried to take in the good and learn from his parents on how to be a better parent. To be encouraging and positive, not always trying to correct my child.

It’s a work in progress.

This is all new to me, and if I had never met Blair, I’d be passing on my Korean parenting traditions and I don’t know how I feel about that.

It’s like they say… you don’t know anything if you haven’t experienced it.

Now that I’ve experienced a different cultural home life, I can use it to my advantage and make sure that I pass on the good traits to my child and future children.

I can’t imagine what my life would be like without Bear and his family.

I’m so happy and feel blessed to have met him and to be able to surround myself with his family.

I love my Korean family, of course, they’re just different. :)






Catching up and gossiping with old friend while children played at LemonTree.

Love this place, unlike the American indoor play yards, this place has ‘babysitters’.

You play while they watch the kids play. Brilliant.

Widely popular to all families, not just Korean.

How To Be A Single Parent




Spending quality time doing things Tyler wants to do.

Saturday afternoon we painted on a canvas on the kitchen floor.

I tried my best to be encouraging and not critical. I’m learning to be more like an American parent as oppose to a Korean one.

I would say parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. There is no right or wrong way to parent but there are better ways than others.

I’ve learned, while dating a white man Bear that he is who he is because his parents. And with that said, Bear is the most amazing person I have yet to meet. He’s supportive, patient, encouraging, non judgemental, forgiving and so loving.

I noticed after my visit to Kansas during the holidays that it trickled down from his mother and father.

It’s funny because any issue I have with my son, Bear teaches me to be a better parent. Just because I have a kid doesn’t mean I’m right or can parent better. The person that knows how to improve behavior and stay calm  while dealing comes out on top.

I am a single parent now, but with Bear in my life I feel like I have someone to help me.

Parenting can be so frustrating and at times I want to scream but nothing will come out of it.

First and foremost, calm my irritation and learn to be patient and give words of affirmation.

Valentine’s Family Date Night

An art event was going on at Chynna so we all went to eat dinner and get our creativity flowing through our hands.

Jason Lee was there to help Tyler draw/sketch.

It was a quiet night with everyone that I love, Bear, Tyler and my hubby.



Bear’s gift wasn’t extravagant but it was just what he wanted. He loves red and camo so it was perfect!



Hope you all had a great Valentine’s day and was able to spend it with the ones you love.

How To Be a Single Parent

Or shall I say ‘Part time mommy’

Shipping his surprise to arrive tomorrow since I pick him up on Friday.

He enjoys getting packages like me! :P


Minecraft pink pig, I love you book & a card!



This book is super cute! Would be a great gift to any kid from any parent…

The I Love You Book

Make sure you get it through Ebates  or Mr Rebates for your cash back for Barnes & Noble!!!

If you want both rebates, DL the Ebates toolbar icon and make sure it’s blinking green. Then you can go to Mr. Rebates and get rebates off both!


Are You Pooping Wrong?

I don’t remember when, who and how but I found out that it is better to have your knees above your hips when you’re pooping.

I came across this photo on #facebook the other day so I thought I’d share it.


Tyler grew out of his step stool a while back so now I have it next to the toilet and use is for just that. I’ve mentioned this before on my blog, but now I have proof that it is better for the pooping experience!



I have Mr. Panda experiencing it with me each time. Even my son uses it to help him… :P

Try it, I promise you’ll never go back to not using one.

#SuperBowl Sunday How To Be A Kid

…at an adult event

My son was rooting for the #Broncos.

So was his dad. So much that his dad texted in the midst of scheduling a drop off time, ‘GO BRONCOS’!

I replied, ‘did you hear about the Super Bowl predicting orangutan, Eli? Well he picked Seahawks’.

He responded with, ‘GO BRONCOS’!

As for Tyler, he had fun with balloons while his he was getting defeated!


Family Christmas #latepost

My cousins all have a minimum two kids each. I was the first to have one but I’m the only one with one.

I guess I have to start pushing them out soon.

Christmas was celebrated later, after the New Year since I was in Kansas and it was the first weekend available.

The kids had a blast because well, they’re kids. They’ll always find fun.

I was still kinda sick so I tried to keep my distance.

It’s always great to see my family and spend some quality time. Oh and gossip and catch up on each others’ lives.













I woke up on the first day of 2014 feeling under the weather.

Bear went to play fold and I went to pick up Tyler in Irvine.

I was feeling shitty on the drive there and back. I got home and slept for a bit before heading over to my aunt’s house.

I wasn’t hungover because I barely had drinks, three actually. Which is nothing.

I got to my aunt’s and couldn’t even eat and be social. I went to the living room plopped myself on the couch and passed out for several hours. Missed the 새배 and all.

I never miss out on free money!

Luckily my cousin took some photos because I wasn’t able to.



Family Night

After work we decided to go to the mall to get into the holiday spirit.

Nowhere great, just the local one.

I saw a potential NYE dress online at Nordstrom so I wanted to try it on. Of course it wasn’t available at the store.

So we walked around, Tyler bought some toys and we had dinner at CPK! (I’ve been wanting to eat there 24-7, lately).





A store with my name!!! Doesn’t represent me at all, had crappy stuff.






Then we had dinner at my currently obsessed place, CPK!



Holiday Traditions

Revisiting the Terrace Theater in Long Beach for the Nutcracker by Long Beach Ballet.

I yelped the theater to get the address and I see my review from 2010.

I remembered taking Tyler to see the Nutcracker, I just didn’t remember when and where.

C.Y. asked me this holiday if I wanted to go join in on her tradition of taking her nephew and niece to the Nutcracker. Any chance to take Tyler to a show? Sure!

Every year they perform the Nutcracker and every year, it seems to be a bit different.

They added a little comedy to certain scenes and they changed the choreography a bit here and there.

Films are great, plays are wonderful and ballets… well they’re just as amazing a musicals.

Thank you unnie for inviting us!

I hope Tyler grows up to appreciate all arts and entertainment. Not just what’s on TV and radio.






@SDZSafariPark in the Rain!

I’ve been planning this trip since I was in Kansas. When I realized the tickets I bought in June expired next week.

Little did I know it was going to rain today!

Last night before bed, I thought to check the weather like my usual self. (I alway try to be prepared).

Then decided not to since weather doesn’t fluctuate much in SoCal.

I woke up this morning and I heard the raindrops.


I had Bear call the park immediately to see how they operate under the weather conditions. Luckily they were open and the animals don’t mind the rain, they said.

It was up to the visitor’s level of comfort.

I was up for it, I figured it would be less crowded!

We pack extra clothes, three umbrellas, wore heavy clothing and headed down south.

The drive there was crazy. Thank god I was not driving.

When we got there it was sprinkling and it wasn’t too bad.

We walked around and headed to the Africa tram before our departure.

While waiting for the next tram to arrive, it started raining really hard but quickly stopped when it was our turn to get on.

The sun even came out and so did all the animals!

What a streak of luck!

We got to see all the animals, even the cheetah!




















And of course it wouldn’t be complete without stopping by the gift shop to look for some panda stuff. Too bad it wasn’t cute enough to buy.



Growing Up

My son lost his first molar today and boy am I glad.

He hasn’t been great at taking care of his baby teeth so it had a crown. A hideous silver crown.

Now it’s gone!

Tyler suggested that he write a note to the tooth fairy.



Too Young To Know

I was looking through photos on Facebook today and came across this video of Tyler.

Click Here for Video

He has grown so much and I can’t believe I didn’t appreciate him when he was a baby.

I know I was really young so I didn’t take full advantage of his growing moments.

Looking back at the videos I feel guilty for every moment I yelled at him.

There’s always an issue with having children too young or too old.

When you’re too young, you can’t fully enjoy and appreciate your own child.

When you’re to old, you can appreciate the child but too tired to really be physically active with them.

It’s either the mental or physical downfalls that you’ll have to deal with.

Tyler was so cute and so innocent. I was so young and so dumb to realize.

I would do anything to go back into time and change the way I was but I know there’s nothing I can do about that.

The only thing to do is cherish every moment with him now and forever.

Hopefully I didn’t fuck things up so bad the past 9 years.

Tyler, if you ever read this, I LOVE YOU!