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#PoolDay #LDW

The best way to end the summer…

Pool time with friends and family! Thank you for the hospitality!

We practiced diving… helped burn our calories, so says C & B.

I was always scared of diving. I’ve never tried until Sunday.

The way I learned to swim:

Dad: Come down the slide, I’ll catch you!

Me: Ok!

After I slide down, no one was around, I doggy paddled to the side as I hyperventilated.

Not FUN!

Diving scare the shit out of me. Belly flop, water up the nose, skin the water contact.

I attempted once yesterday and I was able to satisfy my goal. I didn’t do it again.

I believe it was a fluke.

#howtobealady: know how to dive

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Bear Baby showing off!

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B doing a back dive!

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 #WhiteGirls

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Baby Dilemma

Me: If I decided I didn’t want another baby, would you still be with me?

Bear Baby: Of course.

I knew then, I was marrying my dream man.

I know my wedding will soon be over and I know that I’m not getting any younger.

I’ve been thinking about when I should have my baby and even though there are so many factors, the most important one for me is my convenience.

I’ve been there and done that (with a nanny) so I know exactly how it’s going to go.

I’m still trying to convince Bear Baby that a nanny is necessary.

I’m even having my friends chime in.

The two options are, of course, get pregnant soon after the wedding. Or wait at least a year and get pregnant. Hoping that ‘getting pregnant’ is much easier said than done.

The pros of getting pregnant right away:

Get it over with, still young, chance to have more… I guess that’s it.

The cons to getting pregnant right away:

I’ll be alone, I can prepare my body… that’s all.

The pros and cons of waiting… well, I can’t really think of any reason except that I may be able to plan my pregnancy with a friend.

I always say, being pregnant alone is torture.

I have no reason to wait. I want at least three children and the longer I wait, the better chance of a complication.

I just want to be in a place where I can still work out while I’m carrying. I had a friend who ran half a marathon while six months pregnant! Now that’s something!

I honestly feel like my biggest fear is that I’ll get fat and I won’t have a social life.

Which may be a great thing (not the fat part) since I started my first quarter at Walden University (online) to finish my bachelor’s degree.

Though it won’t help me from now until the day after the wedding.

I still expect some things to change if I do get pregnant. I’d want to be in a house, not an apartment. I need to make more money. I need to get healthy. We need to reevaluate certain things.

My first pregnancy was never planned so this is all new to me. I may not be excited about the wedding but I sure am excited about getting pregnant with the love of my life!

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#GolfPro

Testing out the clubs that my crush uses.

Bear Baby LOVED them!

Cobra Amp Cell Pro

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DW:

Mako 2-Eye Canoe Moc Boat
iconV-Neck Pima Cotton T-Shirt
J. CREW Shorts
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