Picking out exactly what I wanted wasn’t a cinch.
When I first found out that he was interested in shopping for one from my dear friend Jo, I started to investigate. Well, I had her investigate.
Honestly, I wanted a 3 ct. pear cut diamond, GIA certified, with a rose gold setting. Now, let’s be honest, that’s a lot of money.
When I realized that I may be aiming too high and just how ridiculous it sounds to spend around $40k on a rock on my finger, I decided to research other options.
Granted $40k on my finger doesn’t sound bad, it wouldn’t sound bad to any girls out there. But now that I’m 31, don’t have my parents’ money to spend on a wedding, house, furnitures and dowry, I needed to really evaluate what I was asking my boyfriend to do.
Spend money on my ring OR spend it on a down payment for a house?
RING < HOUSE
Trust me, as much as I want that 3 ct. pear, I can wait for the 5ct. pear for our 5th year anniversary, or a push gift.
So then my journey began in finding the perfect gemstone.
After a few google searches, I found out that sapphires came in other colors. It also happened to be our birthstone!
I figured if it came in champagne, white, pink, blue and aqua, it would HAVE to come in purple. And it did! Different shades of purple.
Then I came across this photo…
I fell in love.
Lilac sapphire with a rose gold setting. I’m sure the lighting helped a lot, but I couldn’t stop thinking about this exact ring.
I did some more research and found many sites that sold a cheap version. Not an engagement ring version.
Luckily, I had a jeweler friend who helped me find the purple sapphire.
Sapphires are apparently highly desired, especially the purple. The shade, size and clarity needed to be perfect but because of the rarity of the gemstone, it took forever.
When she found the stones that she thought I may like, she called me over to take a look. I of course took Jo along.
She had three different sizes and shades, she wanted to gage my preference to figure out what she had to look for.
I knew I wanted to go with the lighter shade of purple and anywhere between 2.5 ct. to 4 ct.
This is when all the fun began!
After the first meeting, I went home and told Bear all about it. I convinced him that I wanted a purple sapphire. He kept arguing with me on how it wasn’t traditional and that he wanted to get me a diamond.
I refused. Every time I
was drunk felt comfortable enough to talk about it, I professed how much I wanted the sapphire.
About a month passed by…
My friend JH, finally found the perfect stone.
After the stone was chosen, we moved onto the band. Of course, I was doing this all on my own with Jo and JH. My job was to figure out what I wanted before Bear went in for the kill.
I would hate to have him get something off of something I think I like and then I realize I don’t like it on my finger.
JH cooperatively helped me out. Showed me different settings and colors and made her suggestions.
I was sold on the rose gold, but for some reason, it didn’t make the ring POP and it didn’t look like an engagement ring.
So I opted for platinum.
This all happened over the summer. I had no idea what was happening between then, well maybe a little.
I knew it was coming, just didn’t know when.
Then he proposed. Now I have this beautiful ring on my finger that symbolizes us for eternity.
Our birthstone, my favorite color and so clear and beautiful, just like our future.
I realize now, I don’t need a diamond, I probably didn’t even need a stone, I just need Bear and his love forever.