Tyler’s 2nd to last football game and I had to go since I barely saw him in October. My son is so athletic and quick. He may be small but he is aggressive and loves sports. He dreams to be a pro football player one day and though I may not wish that upon my child, I guess I will support him. My worry will be that he will get hurt and be out of commission for the rest of his life! We’ll see if he likes it in high school. Being small, he may not like getting shoved around when flags aren’t involved.
Always a bittersweet moment. I love having him around and miss him dearly as soon as I drop him off but then again I look forward to some alone time. But no matter what, Tyler is always on my mind. I am always thinking of him every minute of the day, wondering how he’s doing or what he’s doing and thinking about if he’s thinking of me too… the best part about being apart is when he texts or calls me!
Tyler and I had a really great weekend together. I enjoy picking him up on Fridays even though I have to sit in traffic for 2-3 hours from BH to South OC. But that extra night I get to have him under the same roof means a lot. He’s growing so fast and any time spent away from each other is detrimental to our relationship. It’s crazy because one week we’ll get along great and he’ll go home happy. The next weekend, I will yell and be upset and he won’t go home happy, neither will I. But I understand. There are times I can’t always be the #partimemom and do whatever he wants. I still need to put my foot down and do my part as if I was a #fulltimemom. I can’t let him slide on things because I will not allow him to get away with things because I see him on the weekends.
It’s difficult. I will say the most difficult part is the fact that I can implement mannerisms and behaviors that I think he should learn and carry as he gets older because I don’t see him that often. I don’t get to use the good that I’ve learned growing up to make sure that he has the same upbringing. And as much as it’s unfair, it’s also fair. I realized that no matter how the situation would be, there will never be a fair way to raise a child with divorced parents. One person will always feel like they get the short end of the stick. And i think I’ve come to just accept that fact. Once it’ll be me, another time it’ll be my first husband. (But I feel like it’s me most of the time! :P)
The best part about being a passenger is being able to stretch my short little legs. Every Friday, I drive from Beverly Hills to Rancho Mission Viejo. That’s about 80 miles. Call me crazy, but that’s what I/We do.
I had a thought the other day (after Mother’s Day)… that if I could get into the office a little later two days out of the week, I would pick Tyler up in the am and drop him off at school and head into the office. I would stay later to finish up work and also I would be able to avoid traffic. If I got up at 4am, I’d be able to get to Equinox at 4am in Newport, workout and get ready and be at Tyler’s home by 7:00am-7:30am. I’d drop him off at school by 8:00am and get to the office by 10:00am-10:30am ish? The insane part would be that I would have already been up for six hours and had been on the road for 3.5hours of it. 😛
I’ll have to talk to my Director about this… but I think this would be a great leap in my relationship with Tyler…
First, I’d like to say THANK YOU to Yi-Wen & Paul at Irvine BMW for helping us get into a beautiful car. We took a week to think about it after our first visit and we were all glad to have walked away with the BMW X6 M Sport.
Don’t get me wrong, the only SUV I’ll drive is still the Range Rover (and not the sport) but the X6 comes in a close second. I fell in love with the X6 when it first came out and I’ve had my eye on it and finally we have it in our garage. The Range Rover was a bit too much for us to get right now. I will drive the Range Rover again soon. And doesn’t the X6 look like a Polar Bear???
My mom was in dire need of a new vehicle and since I got a nice promotion at the end of the year, I decided that getting her a new car would be my first duty. My worry for her safety was #1. Then of course, I wanted it too.
I’ve known Yi-Wen since 2001-ish. My ex-husband and I got an employee an M3 under my credit (which the employee got his payment deducted out of his paycheck monthly).
Then I got a 645i, in 2005, with an exer who put me through the wringer (finally out of my hair and not affecting my life anymore).
All said and done, I was waiting to get back to Yi-Wen and get another BMW.
We got the 2016 X6 xDrive 35i with premium and sport packages. Alpine white on black Dakota leather, although I could have gotten Coral red or the Cognac. I wouldn’t have minded the Nappy leather too but oh well. The trim is the Polar Wood Trim, definitely not my favorite, actually the worst of it all, but I didn’t really have an option to be picky. AND it isn’t as bad as it used to be.
All this came into place since I’ve put my finances in order. I know exactly how much I have, what goes out, how much to spend, and what’s saving. I’ve never felt so refreshed in my life. 🙂
I’ve also given him a name already, let me introduce you to Troy. 😀
I don’t think it’s weird to “ddaeh mi ruh” (scrub) in the tub. Americans are weird about being naked but it’s more weird if I’m awkward about it.
Tyler asked to get scrubbed so I can exfoliate his dead skin before he goes to school. When he got in the tub and I told him I’d be back after I changed to a tank top he asked if I was going to wear it in. I was only planning on sitting outside to scrub him since I didn’t want to sit in the tub, but since he asked, I went in with him. He’s not weird and I’m not weird and it’s fine.
He walks around (not shy) around me and around the house after his shower and sometimes in his underwear. I’m open and free about it too. Of course when the time comes, I will not do it anymore but until then, there’s no need to put anything in his head about living in a naked house. 😛
Circumstances are different when parents are separated and the growing baby is with his mother. He is still a baby and wants to be treated like one. He still wishes to sleep with me here and there. Most of my friends are the same way, even if they are still with their husbands.
I grew up running around naked or in my underwear until… geez, I still do around my mom. I wouldn’t in front of my dad of course, but I never see him so it doesn’t even matter.
What’s weird is what’s weird to each individual. Your opinion of this matter is of no concern.