I had decided to visit an old family friend in MD while I was in the city. We arrived to NY on Friday am after a red eye and we left for MD on the Amtrak on Monday at 4am out of Penn Station. I ended up falling asleep and missed my exit. Luckily the next exit was still close to my friend’s house so we had a wait a bit while she arrived.
Julia Gulia has been in my life before I actually met her. My mom and her mom were high school friends from Korea and when I was in 7th grade and when Julia was in 8th grade, we met in person. Since then we’ve been inseparable. We had a nine year hiatus while in our mid-20s to now but we picked up right where we left off.
We got into MD around 8am and left on Wednesday at 8pm. we had a great full three days in Bel Air and it was not enough.
We catched up, watched tv, played with the children, ate and repeated for three days. Tyler stayed home with us on the first day but on the 2nd and 3rd day, he went to the TKD studio with Julia’s husband. He had summer camp going on at his business so it worked out well! Tyler met new friends and was able to be active all day instead of being on his iPad playing Fortnite.
I was so sad to leave but exctied about our future meeting. Because as teens we saw each other every year (visiting one another from LA to VA) or sometimes twice a summer, we wanted to keep the tradition for our children. 🙂
A week after I got back from London, Tyler and I joined Bear in NYC. It was our first trip together to the city. Tyler had already been there with his other family a few times and with school. Bear had to go to NY the day after we got back from London for training and we joined him on his 3rd week there.
Too bad the weather was shitty because it rained most of the time.
Took my mom and Tyler to The Broad museum for a day out. My mom’s bday is on the 20th and since she had plans to celebrate it with her friends, we decided to celebrate a week earlier. And also because I’ll be in Vegas. 😛
They enjoyed the museum and all the cool installations. As for Bear and I, we had visited initially in December of 2015. For the art to be mostly the same, we didn’t really enjoy it the second time around. Well, maybe the Infinity Room. That’s always a treat.
Tyler’s 2nd to last football game and I had to go since I barely saw him in October. My son is so athletic and quick. He may be small but he is aggressive and loves sports. He dreams to be a pro football player one day and though I may not wish that upon my child, I guess I will support him. My worry will be that he will get hurt and be out of commission for the rest of his life! We’ll see if he likes it in high school. Being small, he may not like getting shoved around when flags aren’t involved.
Saw my friend Catalina and her children on VR and I’ve been contemplating about what to get him. This would be a great buy for him and for me since it’s not that expensive!!
Always a bittersweet moment. I love having him around and miss him dearly as soon as I drop him off but then again I look forward to some alone time. But no matter what, Tyler is always on my mind. I am always thinking of him every minute of the day, wondering how he’s doing or what he’s doing and thinking about if he’s thinking of me too… the best part about being apart is when he texts or calls me!
Tyler and I had a really great weekend together. I enjoy picking him up on Fridays even though I have to sit in traffic for 2-3 hours from BH to South OC. But that extra night I get to have him under the same roof means a lot. He’s growing so fast and any time spent away from each other is detrimental to our relationship. It’s crazy because one week we’ll get along great and he’ll go home happy. The next weekend, I will yell and be upset and he won’t go home happy, neither will I. But I understand. There are times I can’t always be the #partimemom and do whatever he wants. I still need to put my foot down and do my part as if I was a #fulltimemom. I can’t let him slide on things because I will not allow him to get away with things because I see him on the weekends.
It’s difficult. I will say the most difficult part is the fact that I can implement mannerisms and behaviors that I think he should learn and carry as he gets older because I don’t see him that often. I don’t get to use the good that I’ve learned growing up to make sure that he has the same upbringing. And as much as it’s unfair, it’s also fair. I realized that no matter how the situation would be, there will never be a fair way to raise a child with divorced parents. One person will always feel like they get the short end of the stick. And i think I’ve come to just accept that fact. Once it’ll be me, another time it’ll be my first husband. (But I feel like it’s me most of the time! :P)
Koreans love celebrating the life of a baby. Apparently because back in the day, parents were lucky to have a child live past 100 days. Hence the 100 day celebration and the HUGE 1st birthday celebration. Well, at least that’s what I was told. If I’m wrong, someone please correct me because that’s what I’ve been telling my white side of the family. 😛
My eldest cousin had his 3rd son. We celebrated an intimate dinner at the China Gate restaurant. Everyone does their celebration there, unless you’re super fancy and then you do it at Lawry’s or Spago.
I have this theory, the first child always looks like the mom or dad. The second child always looks like the one that the first child doesn’t look like. The third child is a mixture of both, which is always the best looking child. Now think about the people in your life that fit that count…. right?
Anyway… we enjoyed a delicious meal at the birthday. I popped a diet pill because I didn’t want to pig out. Did me right! There was another celebration at the restaurant, a 1st birthday. The parent and toddlers were running around and I noticed this white man with a hapa kid. He was the most adorable kid ever. I can’t wait to see what my child looks like… I don’t know when but I can’t wait!
If you’re single, please go marry someone outside your race, let’s take our existence one step closer to world peace!