Category: friends

Been a year @BrendaKovar

Can you believe I have NOT touched my hair in a year! Finally I’ve gone light again in my roots. This will be my final… I think.


My husband turn 30 few weekends ago. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said, “I want to go to Kansas.”


So here we were! With his family and friends and enjoying his birthday as if we lived here!

It was relaxing and nice. My gf JL and her bf JH came from NY to celebrate it with us.

Happy 30th Bear!

Downey Trio

Met my middle school and hs friends for dinner in Downey at Gaucho Grill again. The gentleman in the photo is the owner/old hs history teacher!

I love catching up with my friends from my childhood!

Purple Rhinestone Teddy Bear with Pompom Key Chain / Purse Charm
Vince Little Boy Slub Tee
Da Nang Camo Jacket (similar)
Baldwin Grey Slit Denim (similar)
Goyard Bellechasse Blue (similar)
Chill Pill iPhone Case


My trip to NY in August was super eventful. The weather was much better and I experienced an amazing dining experience at The Nomad Hotel. Although it wasn’t truffle season and my gf JL really wanted me to try the truffle pasta.. we figured I’d be back soon enough to try it next time! We had frosé, saw sapphires and enjoyed the tolerable weather… way better than my trip before.

My next NY trip is in October, less than a month away and another in November… I’m excited to be back with my fur!

@Sunset_Tower Birthday Celebration

My colleague had her birthday several weeks ago and I got to visit the Sunset Tower Hotel for the first time! I loveeeedddd their bar, we had great drinks and apps until the birthday girl arrived. We ended up at Skybar at the Mondrian Hotel, I didn’t stay late since I had an early am the next day.

I need to go back though…



I must say, I was the fattest I’ve been in New York on this last trip. My fat ass still ate like a pig and enjoyed my mini vacation. It’s crazy how often I’ve been going to NY and I’m always thinking about when I’m going to go back. I will say though, it is different with JL having a place of her own and now living with her bf.

I forgot how warm and disgusting NY gets in the summer. I’ve been so many times in the fall and winter that I didn’t expect the weather to be THAT unbearable. I plan to skip NY for the rest of the season and look forward to going back in the fall. However when I was editing my NY video, I realized how much fun I have with my gf JL and how much I already missed her. Being able to relive the moment through my videos are priceless and I’m so glad I picked up on this hobby even though I annoy most people with my camera in their face.

Tom Ford Sunglasses
Pedialyte powder to reduce hangovers
Spam Musubi Maker
Canon G7X Camera
Tom Ford Lip Stain

G Morning #Priorities

I’ve been drinking a lot of coffee lately. Not because I want to but because I need to. I’ve been tired, extremely tired, every morning. I really do believe it’s the lack of exercise in my life. How can one become a superwoman and conquer all the the tasks in one day.

1. gym
2. office
3. healthy eats
4. social life
5. school work
6. late office hours
7. relationship
8. alone time
9. errands
10. hobbies

Not necessarily in any order but how do you fit all of that in a 24 hour day minus sleep? Where’s that limitless pill when you need it?


Quarterly Crisis

It came late this quarter. 

I deleted my FB which means bye bye Violetcrimes Facebook page. Yes, I changed it recently. I’m in the process of figuring out how I’m going to transfer my wordpress blog to my new domain while navigating the readers (yoo-hoo? Anyone there?) from my 

So this is how it started. I woke up with Bear tapping my thigh. I woke up abruptly on my back (which I never ever sleep that way), mid snore. I started feeling sick yesterday and I didn’t feel better this am.

I went back to sleep for the next couple of hours and woke up as Bear left for work. Weird thing is, I was aware of my sleeping at that. Every little snort (I don’t know how long I’ve been doing it) woke me up. I even think at one point, Bear grabbed his pillow and cover his ears under it! Sowee! 

I got ready for the office. Went on the scale (since last Wednesday) before putting on my #ootd, and I weighed in at 119.doesntmatter. Tried to take a photo but I need a new battery in the scale. Reads Lo immediately. 

I couldn’t find anything to wear. I squeezed into my white “too tight” jeans, long shirt because I hate wearing butt floss and sneakers. Hair tied up, grabbed a pair of heels just incase and left the house. I even grabbed my Jim bag. 18 days until the wedding in Kansas and today was the first. Do Jim for 17 days, eat healthy, buy always eat good breakfast! 

I even stopped by Starbucks, long line at the drivethru but nothing that deterred me before. But I decided to park and walk in. When I got to the office, I got settled and went through my emails. 

NOT EVEN an hour later! I get up to grab something from the printer and my back feels like it’s going to snap. I don’t even know if I’m describing my pain correctly. It feels dull, but maybe sharp? It’s a general area… Lower right, hurts more when I’m standing or waking. Sitting is good, I can’t turn normally. I’m a little bit slower. I can’t stand straight. 

That didn’t start to worry me until later. I just felt down and unworthy. Why do we just work and we all die. Why do we do the things we do? 

I recently realized my hobby was to document my #pigletventures with my family and share it; hobbies are a great thing! I tried to justify it and question myself for doing it. I felt like I wanted more out of life. I want to learn numbers. I don’t want to limit myself from being able to be more successful at my workplace. I don’t ever want my superior to think they can’t come to me with anything. I need more. 

As the day went on, my back was getting worse. Everytime I had to twinkle, the journey was painful. Ibuprofen didn’t help at all! 

I got a lot done and the day was over. I felt disconnected. So I deactivated my Facebook. 

I don’t know how long my quarterly crisis is going to last but I’m out. 

LAX -> LAS -> LAX in 15 Hours

My trip to Las Vegas was short lived. Not that that was a bad thing. It’s actually the way to do it. I had all day Sunday to recoup and I needed it. I literally slept all day. I woke up twice to eat, but that’s about it. I arrived late evening on Friday, had a quick bite and joined my friend and his boss at Marquee. His boss came in on a helicopter with his wife for their six year anniversary + another couple. Just the four of them. How exciting and fun is that? They danced and drank and by the looks of it, they had a really great time. It made me think… Bear and I would never do something like that… he hates the club!

That was the first part of the night, the second part was at my friend’s table once the rest of his friends arrived. We drank and danced and tried to go to Drai’s but didn’t make it in… will not say why. When we got out of the hotel to get back to our rooms, the sun was out. We slept for a few hours and headed to the day club.

I originally went to join my friend because… well I missed Vegas. And he was there for work. I’m already thinking about when I could go back… hopefully in June!🙂😛


Couple weeks ago, a gf of mine asked me if my _______ achievement (I can’t think of the word, but similar to proud/greatest/happiest something along those lines) was having Tyler. We were talking about Mother’s Day and how I had a horrible time… (blog post coming soon)

I answered NO. Tyler has been an amazing addition to my life, but I can’t say that he has been the best thing that has happened (assuming that, that was the context.)

The best thing that has happened to me as of yet is my transition into real estate. It all stemmed from meeting HC several years ago (I want to say 2008/2009) through mutual friends in the Asian party scene and keeping in contact.

Years later, she approached me while we were at an Art Gallery opening party with the same mutual friends. “I didn’t want to offend you, but I think you would do well in real estate. I always wanted to ask but I didn’t and now I am. Would you be interested in taking classes and getting your license?” (Something along those lines.) 1. I was honored that she asked me. 2. I was ready for a change in “career”. 3. I had tried to obtain my license before but I was not in the right mind set to really want it. I realized timing was everything (well, I knew before but… this time, timing for getting into real estate.)

She gave me a number to call for my classes and Bear and I signed up immediately. We took our exam months later and both passed. (He took an extra hour longer than me.)

Fast forward two years and here I am working for an unbelievably incredible role model who has taken me under her wing to learn every bit of everything in real estate. Her management skills, guidance, patience and work ethic has opened my mind to endless possibilities in every aspect of my life. The opportunity to be around someone like this is rare, I know. To be able to work alongside such a studious person has motivated me to become a better person in my work and personal life. The positive energy I have received (unintentionally) exudes out of me even when I’m away from the office. I have never been around a group of people that make me want to be a better person each and every day. And for that reason, my new job/career is the best thing that has happened to me, and if I really want to get in the nitty gritty of things, it was the chance of meeting HC and keeping in contact for this opportunity to arise.

This job has given me confidence that I never knew existed. Working for this company and with the people in our team has also changed the way I view life and my surroundings. Being around people who want to do better for themselves and work towards that goal is extremely instrumental in my path in succeeding. Knowing that I can do more than I sought out to do/be, being an integral part of a team and knowing that my input and hard work are recognized is crucial to me becoming a better me.

I don’t know where I would be without this and them. I have never been more proud to be doing what I’m doing and I’m so eager to see what comes of this. Never have I felt as challenged and inspired. Thank you HC and thank you God for all of this awesome experience!

15 Hours in Las Vegas, BABY #snapstory

I wore my nude suede dress that I purchased in November 2015. It was long and had a slit in the front middle. Didn’t like that look anymore so I had it altered and it became a short dress.

Similar Nude Dress

Not-So-Basic Babe Midi Dress NUDE

I love the nude of the dress because it’s the perfect skin tone against my skin.

The lip product was the Tom Ford Patent Finish Lip Color


@IVYConnect & @IlCieloBH

I joined HC for a panel at the Writers Guild Theater for Troy Carter. IVY Connect is an organization by invite only and I had the pleasure of attending as a guest. The panel was insightful and definitely enjoyable. We drank wine, talked, laughed and asked questions. Dinner was at Il Cielo after… more wine was had and we had an amazing Monday evening!