If you know me, you know I had a close friend named Joanna who had a sister named Grace. Joanna was referenced as JO in my older posts.
This throwback Thursday post is about my past friendship with her.
The photo below is the last time I hung out with the two of them. Our friendship dissipated right after my first Paris trip.
What prompted this post was my recent encounter with her.
DJ Mike K who happens to be an 오빠 (older brother) to me is married to a really good friend, Jeannie.
I’ve followed him to Vegas the past year playing the role of his “road manager”. His best friend SY another 오빠 of mine has a golf friend who happens to also golf with JO’s husband. I was tagging along on another Vegas trip before Christmas (12/22-12/24) with SYx2 (him and his wife, my friend, have the same initials) DJ Mike K and Jeannie. SY shared with us that his golf friends and their wives would be in town too. We figured out that it was JO and her husband. I found out weeks before and even though I was informed that we wouldn’t be hanging out at the same table, they’d be at the club. I was reluctant to see her but at the same time eager to see how she was doing. It had been a while since we’ve spoken or hung out. Not that I thought we’d get shitfaced all night like we used to but fond old memories of us hanging out resurfaced.
Few days earlier, Jeannie and I were discussing about the logistics. We’d be at the DJ booth for DJ Mike K and the other couples would get their own table. At this point I knew JO knew of my attendance.
2nd night into my Vegas trip, here we were… waiting in front of Jewel nightclub, two days before Christmas… timing had it so we all ended up meeting in front of the club. That was not planned. Jeannie and JO had met once through me. They were FB friends and followed each other on IG. Jeannie knew of our history and so did SYx2. When JO and her group approached, I noticed she beelined to Jeannie and starting talking up a storm. Her first encounter was Jeannie and I noticed she adamantly stuck with her to avoid any contact with me.
Now, I’m not the one to avoid or ignore. I wanted to say hi, knew it would be awkward but was hopeful for our reunion. She was still talking to Jeannie as if they were long lost sisters. I said hi to the golf couple, and JO’s husband which all three were friendly and pleasant. I walked over to JO as she was still chatting Jeannie and laid my fingertips at her arm to get her attention. We awkwardly hugged and I said hi, she said “you look cute as always” and I turned to say hi to the 3rd girl they were with just realizing it was Grace.
Now, I get it. As sisters you have the sister’s back. However Grace’s attitude was uncalled for. I was surprised to see her cause I had no idea she’d be there and to see her there, I was excited so I said hi and went in for a hug. Mid way through I realized she didn’t feel the same way so stopped my arms from embracing her and walked away. She literally just stood there, didn’t open up to me, arms by her side. Now imagine this. Someone has their arms around you about to hug you, not being in contact with you yet… and you just stand their as if you’re blind to them. This is why I stopped. Almost like someone pushed rewind. Lol
I walked away and that was that. We walked into the club and they were placed away from the DJ booth. I did my usual dancing and drinking and tried not to think about the encounter.
I was a bit saddened by her behavior. Not Grace but JO’s. I was hoping we could smalltalk a bit. “How are you? What have you been up to?” I was actually disappointed that she didn’t engage in the way I wanted to.
Our friendship just ended, there wasn’t any hard feelings. Something happened, trust was lost and it just wasn’t the same again. So it was hard for me to comprehend her awkwardness and withdrawal. It sucked knowing that I was the only bigger person in this situation. I wished that that wasn’t the case.
In the middle of the club, I used the gen pop bathroom because the security guard that usually opens the VIP bathroom was nowhere in sight.
The club was empty and when I walked out of the stall, Grace was walking in past me. We were the only ones in the bathroom. Not even the attendant was in sight. We met eye contact, I smiled, she kept walking without acknowledging. I almost turned around and asked, “what’s your problem?” But I didn’t. I kept walking and decided to just send her a text.
“Learn to smile.” That’s all I wrote. I don’t even know when our last texts to each other was since I had reset my phone months back and couldn’t save my texts.
I didn’t receive a text back. I didn’t even know if it was still her number until a couple of days ago. Apparently she was PO’d from the text and they talked shit about me when they got back to the room after the club. From what I heard.
I can just imagine Grace now after getting back to the table from the bathroom, “omg wtf look what Violet texted!!!”
DJ Mike K’s set ended at 2:30 so we were out before the club ended and that’s how this story ends.